Here's a woman who seems to have a similar perspective on life as I do, from family dynamics to unschooling! Her post today, called 'and in the end the love you take is equal to the love you make' felt particularly meaningful to me, given my current relationship with my mother and having just spent an afternoon (a rather nice afternoon) with her for Mother's Day.
I wrote to Jasie today and I'll share what I wrote with you:
"In particular, your post about family (biological and not) really touched me. I've had a trying relationship with my own mother and she's never really understood my views or desires. She's been unsupportive of things that brought me joy and that will continue to bring joy and love to me, like my unconventional family and our decision to move to Nova Scotia. Over the past six months we've had very little contact and certainly none of the closeness and friendship that we had when I was living a life more in line with her ideas of propriety and security. It's been difficult to let her (or that other relationship we had) go and I've been learning to find the validation and unconditional love with the people I've chosen to have as a family.
In this process, I've been learning to forgive her and I've come to a new perspective on forgiveness. It's not about being "OK" with what she's done or not in her role as Mother, it's about knowing that everyone is at their own level of development or enlightenment and that she COULDN'T have given me what I wanted from her. Really, it was my 'stomping my feet in frustration' attitude that was causing me pain. Forgiveness is just about accepting the situation (and people) as they are... it just is.
Anyway, that might have been TMI, but I thought that since you put so much of yourself out there, it might be nice to know that it resonates profoundly with your readers. Or, at least, this one!"
Even if it seems like there are a lot of mean, superficial people out there , there are also a lot of awesome people out there. She's one of them!
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